Actress and filmmaker Mary Njoku has challenged the popular notion of women being naturally independent, arguing that independence often arises from unreliable or unstable relationships.
In a post on Instagram, the ROK Studios boss explained that humans are inherently social and that most people do not genuinely want to navigate life alone. She described independence as a coping mechanism developed when dependable support systems are lacking.
“There’s really no such thing as an independent woman. Independence is not a preference; it’s usually a response. No human truly wants to live alone,” Njoku wrote. “We become independent when we don’t have dependable people around us.
So before labelling a woman as ‘independent’ or ‘overly self-sufficient,’ it’s worth asking why. Are you dependable? Because when someone shows up consistently, nobody chooses isolation.
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Independence is learned in the absence of reliability. She is strong because she has to be. Be dependable. And watch her strength soften into trust.”
Njoku also emphasized the value of consistency and reliability, noting that showing up for others can transform personal strength into trust over time.
Her reflections encourage a deeper understanding of resilience and the circumstances that shape it.